Oh, it’s so easy to judge others. We often judge people by the car they drive, the way they talk, the way they carry themselves, or the fit of their clothes.
We often pass judgment without thinking. Many times we are surprised. Consider this true story:
Two car salesmen were on duty in the showroom. The salesman, who had been doing this job for 25 years, was the next one up for anyone walking through the door.
A young salesman noticed a person looking at the most expensive car in the showroom. This person was poorly dressed and looked as if she were a street person.
The young salesman said to the older salesman, There is a lady looking at the cars. It’s your turn.
The older salesman just laughed and said, You can take her. I’m not wasting my time on a window shopper: much less one that looks like a street person!
The young salesman walked over to the lady and said, May I help you? When the lady asked the price of the car, the young salesman said, This is the most expensive car this company makes.
The woman said, So? How much is it?
He told her the price, and she said, I think I’ll take it. She paid for the car with a bank check, and she picked the car up the next day.
Needless to say, the young salesman learned a valuable lesson that day as did the older salesman .
Another story, a young lady had just finished doing her Saturday workout session and was in too much of a hurry to get changed, so she went to the shopping centre wearing her workout gear. The young lady look for a gift in the high end designer store, as she did so she was not greeted well by the sales person, telling her that this store is too extensive for her, with that she started to walk out the young lady met her aunt who is a regular in that store, she told her aunt what had just happen so they walked back in the sales person recognise the aunt call her by name welcomed her in, the aunt the said “this is my niece and you were rude to her, I will be making a formal complaint and I will not shop here again”
Of course, the moral of this story is to never assume anything about a person by the way he or she looks on the outside. You must always give everyone an opportunity to prove him or herself.
Behind every person is a story or a set of circumstances that makes them who and what they are, or puts them in the particular situation that they find themselves in.
We’ve all had rough days, when we weren’t feeling as good about ourselves as we should. We looked worn, tired. Maybe we were frustrated or sad. You know that when you walk into a place of business, amongst strangers, that you are going to be judged by how you look not on the type of person that you really are.
As such, you may find yourself being treated differently. People may not seem as friendly. In some cases they can be downright rude. Overweight people, people of colour, people that aren’t local, all experience this type of behaviour.
You must put yourself in their shoes. People are people, each experiencing life in a different way. When you feel compelled to judge a person based on their outward appearance, stop and take a moment to give them a chance to prove themselves.
It’s also easy to judge a person’s personality and abilities based on their physical stature. However, it’s a good idea to never underestimate your opponent based on their size, weight, and physical appearance.
Often large, intimidating guys and girls don’t have an aggressive bone in their body. They appear to be frightening because of our tendency to stereotype. Bruce Lee, on the other hand, was of moderate stature. Weighing in at less than 150 pounds, he was a force to be reckoned with.
In addition, many of us are guilty of passing judgment on a person’s situation. A good example of this type of judgment can be found in virtually any office, and around any water cooler. It is the root of gossip.
Remember that old saying walk a mile in my shoes? This is particularly true of these situations. There are many factors affecting people’s lives that may not be readily apparent to the eyes of an onlooker.
If you see someone struggling with money or within a bad relationship, you may find yourself wondering, Why doesn’t he or she just do this or that? You may even think less of that person for being in their circumstances.
Underneath what’s visible to you may be conditions that prevent that person from doing the obvious. Therefore, we have to be careful not to pass judgment on others before considering all of the angles.
You may or may not be familiar with something called a parallax error. This is the apparent displacement of an object when it is viewed successively from two points not in the same line of sight.
If you are familiar with consumer-level digital cameras, then you have had experience with a parallax error. It happens when you look through the camera’s viewfinder, line it up perfectly, and shoot the picture only to discover that you’ve lopped off the top of your subject’s head.
That happened because the view the camera sees through its lens is slightly different than the one you see through the viewfinder.
By the same token, the way you see something may be completely different than the way someone else sees it from his or her point of view. Therefore, it is important that you strive to be open-minded and avoid passing judgment.